EVALUATIONS

Self-compassion means being kind and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.  We’re warm and supportive when confronted with the imperfection of life rather than cold or harsh. We’re helpful and encouraging, like a good friend, coach or mentor would be.  This inner support allows us to feel safe and puts us in a better frame of mind to cope with challenges or make needed changes in our lives.

Self-compassion is rooted in  our common humanity. When we struggle or make mistakes, there’s often an irrational but pervasive sense of isolation – as if “I” were the only person in the world having this painful experience. All humans suffer, however. Not the same way or the same amount, but the very definition of being “human” means being vulnerable, flawed and imperfect. When we are self-compassionate, we recognize that our suffering connects us rather than separates us from others. 

Self-compassion requires taking a balanced, mindful approach to our suffering so that we neither suppress or exaggerate it.  Treating ourselves like we would a friend means we step outside our usual way of looking at things, putting our own situation into better perspective. Mindfulness allows us to turn toward our pain with acceptance of the present moment reality. It prevents us from becoming  “over-identified” with difficult thoughts and feelings, so we aren’t swept away by negative reactivity. 

WE’VE SETTLED FOR A SHALLOW CHRISTIANITY WHERE:

• We rarely multiply mature disciples.
• We live hurried lives, unable to slow down and be with Jesus.
• We pretend to be something on the outside that we are not on the inside.
• We remain emotionally and spiritually immature.
• We allow a lack of self-awareness to harm our relationships.
• We are unable to process sadness, anger, grief, and other emotions.

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